“There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved”
One of the most wonderful experiences in the world is falling in love with the person who is a great match for you. Although it’s not rare to fall in love with the wrong person before meeting Mr Right, it’s also not uncommon to fall in love with the wrong person before meeting Mr Right.
For many centuries philosophers and mystics believed that we only fall in love with three different types of people in our lifetimes. The “one that makes us do stupid things”, “the one that breaks and makes us” and “the one that does not need a special reason”
1. The first love
“The heart wants what it wants”
We usually fall in love for the first time when we are quite young. It’s known as “idealistic love,” and we usually meet this person in high school. This is the type of love shown in fairy tales and Hollywood films. The lovers will have great expectations for their relationships, believing that they would marry and live happily ever after in a lovely house. We would do anything in our power to have this love linger as long as possible since it is so dramatic and incredibly romantic.
Then it comes to a stage where our own principals gets unimportant. We somehow will want the relationship to work and we will tend to think that is how “true love” is supposed to be.
2. The second love
“We are shaped and fashioned by who we love”
When compared to the first kind, second love is much more complicated and difficult. This love will force us to understand “who we are as individuals”, “who our partners are” and “where we want to go in life”. As we are much grown in age and has become matured, this love will make us understand what kind of a person we want to live the rest of our life with.
We will experience manipulations, lies, deceit, and will get hurt more often by our partners. As a result, breakups may follow. We may forgive, makeup again and again until we give up on the relationship entirely. This love usually ends with heartbreak and tears in our eyes, but this relationship will make us stronger. At the end, we will understand the type of the person who is worthy of our trust and heart.
3. The third and final love
“I want all of you. Your flaws, your mistakes, and your imperfections”
By this time, we no longer expect love to be a fairy-tale. We have experienced love to great depths and have emotionally, mentally, and even physically suffered. The third kind of love will arrive in our lives unexpectedly. Initially, when we met this person, we may not want to be in a relationship with them because their personality did not match with ours at all. This love will be totally unplanned and arrive out of the blue. These factors will make the connection more strong and more passionate.
This love will not be dramatic and romantic as the previous affairs but will provide far better peace of mind. The connection we build up with them, the support they provide us, and the effort they insert to build a future with us will make the bond stronger. We will no longer have to hide our flaws and imperfections as they will accept us for who we are.
We will be lot happier on the inside, even if we never anticipated we would end up with this type of person.